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m4m-ethnic-culture:

A Gay Zulu Wedding and the Danger of a Single LGBT African Story

Male and Married: The Gay Zulu Wedding and the Danger of a Single LGBT African Story

In case you missed it, a few weeks ago, two gay black South African men tied the knot at their 200-guest traditional wedding in KwaDukuza, the first of its kind in the old Zulu capital.

Love birds Tshepo Modisane and Thoba Sithole, both proudly Zulu and Tswana, have made their union a part of South Africa’s history by deciding to go public with their gay African traditional wedding ceremony, with a few twists:

In place of the customary lobolo (bride price or dowry), via which the husband customarily offer’s the wife’s family money and/or gifts, they’ve decided to opt for gender parity and, instead,  offer gifts to each of their families in thanks for raising them. They also plan to use the hyphenated version of both their last names, Sithole-Modisane, and are planning to start a family soon using a surrogate (though this report says they’ll be adopting.)

In the video report (below), the couple shares, “It’s against this idea that being gay is unAfrican… Being gay is as African as being black. We are a part of our culture. Thoba is Zulu and I’m Tswana. We’re rooted in our culture and very excited about it.”

On paper, South Africa boasts the friendliest constitution, which protects its lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and intersex (LGBTI) citizens from discrimination based on race, gender and sexual orientation. Yet, the country’s struggle to shift cultural attitudes towards acceptance for this marginalized group of people, especially in rural areas and townships, remains.

According to this Human Rights Watch report, “Black lesbians and transgender men in South African townships and rural areas face an overwhelming climate of discrimination and violence despite protections promised them in the country’s constitution.” It’s no wonder, then, that the mere optics of the “first gay traditional African wedding,” warrant its celebration as a historical milestone for gay Africans everywhere.

Denis Nzioka, founder and editor of Identity Kenya, a news organization covering sexual and gender minorities in Kenya, remarked in an interview, “The gay Zulu wedding was epic, if not pioneering. Having seen the video and photos and customs I was amazed at how the two mixed their love and celebrated it in an ‘African’ way.” And in response to what’s become a slogan amongst anti-gay African leaders, “Homophobia is unAfrican,” Nzioka insists that “the fact that two African men can fall in love and wed, despite a homophobic society that frowns on same-sex relationships counters what many Africans [have been] saying’.”

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The video of the wedding can be viewed here. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ZLB9Y7lPw8

alloutorg:

Meet Aderonke. Before fleeing to the UK, her family was killed and she was arrested and sentenced to death in Nigeria - all because she’s a lesbian.
Now, she might get deported back to danger. Please sign and share urgently - we can stop the UK’s unfair #LGBT deportations:
www.allout.org/aderonke

alloutorg:

Meet Aderonke. Before fleeing to the UK, her family was killed and she was arrested and sentenced to death in Nigeria - all because she’s a lesbian.

Now, she might get deported back to danger. Please sign and share urgently - we can stop the UK’s unfair #LGBT deportations:

www.allout.org/aderonke

bookishboi:

strugglingtobeheard:

blackboybe:

Cece & I are cute as hell. The end.

omg awesome!!!! that must have been sweet =D

For those of you who may not know, BlackBoyBe facilitated a panel a few days ago called Talking Gender, Being Gendered: What Can Be Learned from the Transgender Community featuring all Black trans* identified people (CeCe herself included). 
It was amazing! 

bookishboi:

strugglingtobeheard:

blackboybe:

Cece & I are cute as hell. The end.

omg awesome!!!! that must have been sweet =D

For those of you who may not know, BlackBoyBe facilitated a panel a few days ago called Talking Gender, Being Gendered: What Can Be Learned from the Transgender Community featuring all Black trans* identified people (CeCe herself included). 

It was amazing! 

dontcallmeeuphrasie:

you know what would be great? actual non-binary representation. actual non-binary representation that doesn’t just consist of robots or aliens. like, actual non binary people in the media. that would be fucking fantastic.

blackfashion:

black-m3rmaid:

blackfeminism:

queenquong:

chubbycartwheels:

glam-pire:

kararikue:

You NEEDED Mermen of color on your dash, you just didn’t know it.

no I did

Now my tumblr is perfect.

!!!!!!!
if you haven’t already, i’m guess you wanna see this, sourcedumal and iridescent1
and mypurpleself

yesssss

👀 my companions

Who raided my dreams?

blackfashion:

black-m3rmaid:

blackfeminism:

queenquong:

chubbycartwheels:

glam-pire:

kararikue:

You NEEDED Mermen of color on your dash, you just didn’t know it.

no I did

Now my tumblr is perfect.

!!!!!!!

if you haven’t already, i’m guess you wanna see this, sourcedumal and iridescent1

and mypurpleself

yesssss

👀 my companions

Who raided my dreams?

veganweedsoup:

skylark11:

beverlystokes:

policymic:

"Masculinity is a trait, not a gender"

In an effort to both allocate space for and document the existence of masculine women, photographer Meg Allen created a powerful series of portraits for an exhibit at Cafe Gabriela in Oakland, Calif.

Entitled BUTCH, Allen’s series not only represents genderqueer women for a broader, heteronormative audience, but reaffirms butch identity within the queer community at a time when “butch flight,” or gender transitioning, is arguably becoming more and more commonplace. It is, as Allen says on her website, “an homage to the bull-daggers and female husbands before me, and to the young studs, gender queers and bois who continue to bloom into the present.”

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These are some good looking folks

This is all I have ever wanted to see. My butch friends may sometimes get “Why don’t you just become a man?” in the same way folks would tell me “Why don’t you just be a butch lesbian?” Because masculinity and gender identity are two totally separate bubbles, that for some become a venn diagram, and for others, coexist peacefully inside of us.

Two things can exist independently, and coexist peacefully. Gender identity and masculinity/femininity/androgyny.

a lot of these babes are my friends and this project is really important to my city, it makes me so happy whenever i see it.

oliverhibert:

Still going on these tarot cards!! - Here’s - The Emperor -… Many more to go!!! #pamelacolmansmith #tarot

oliverhibert:

Still going on these tarot cards!! - Here’s - The Emperor -… Many more to go!!! #pamelacolmansmith #tarot

lezbhonest:

lezbhonest:

legitimately just found the best thing ever.
achievement badges for queers

want to score your own queer achievement badges? keep your eyes open for a happy camper badges mini giveaway this week! 

veganweedsoup:

the phrase “i’m too queer for this shit” runs through my mind at an almost constant pace